The “it has always been like this”-things

Yesterday I visited a restaurant with Orsi. There were two toilets. One for men, the other reserved for women.

And I asked myself why even the smallest places tend to gender-divide their toilets.

And why is it that – as a man – choosing the “female toilet” instead of waiting for the Mr. to finish his businesss is — inappropriate?

A part of me understands that a separation of the genders in bigger places makes sense – perhaps for security and molestation reasons.

Yet, what makes a toilet masculine or feminine? Is there a deep useful reason, or is it because it just had always been like this — until it became a standard…? A society standard.

Despite the unimportance if there’s an actual reason for it or not – it made me think.

“It has always been like this.” How many times have I heard that phrase as a toddler? And it seems that largely only kids question the “it has always been like this”-things. The things that we robotically do, even if they often don’t really make sense (anymore).

Like overeating. A.k.a. finishing your plate anyways even if you’re already stuffed.
Or drinking cow-milk.
Or a controversial one: Going to school. Or University.
Or being on Facebook.
Or having a career, house and children.
Staying in the same destructive relationship or job.
Being “successful”.
Having money.

There are many more. And depending on each perspective and situation, some may be minor, some big. Some harder to break-through, some easier and with some we may just learn to live.

My point is: Sometimes the “it has always been like this”-things can be a burden and we may often don’t even recognize how we carry them along.

And to look at them, sometimes question them, leave them on the trail behind us and move on can be a great relief.

Do you know some more things that kinda “that had always been like this”?


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