Our culture had made big steps forward in promoting and implementing equal rights of all genders. Yet, gender equality brings another problem: The fading of sexual polarity. Unfulfilling sex is common, in a society where men and women have lost touch with their own sexuality.
The whole world talks about giving. At best: Unconditionally. And we focus all our energy on giving. Giving. Giving. Give and you shall receive, is what they say The question is: Are you also open to receive? Or do you blame and shame yourself for it? – As if it … Read more
“There is no good and bad” Have you heard that sentence before? Me too. I’ve used it. I believe, too many times. I think, I was right though (despite the fact that I had no idea what I was talking about. But it sounded good.) “There is no good and … Read more
How tempting it is to tackle overthinking by trying to “think” our way out of it. Perhaps all of us have tried this before – without big successes. Today I wanted to look at different ways on how to tackle “overthinking” and I’ll be sharing my top 3 antidotes.
It’s in the struggle where we tend to lose the lightness and the perspective. Instead we “zoom in” – as much as we can. No wonder the problem then appears to be gigantic. All that’s sometimes needed is a bit of distance. A few hours, days, weeks usually help. But … Read more
For many years Bronnie Ware worked in palliative care. Her patients were those who had gone home to die and she was with them for the last three to twelve weeks of their lives. What she noticed: People grow a lot when they are faced with their own mortality. (Have … Read more
Each time we open up to someone, there is a chance to get hurt. …so what? There’s nothing worse than living a life disconnected from others. Living in a world of (perceived) enemies and feeding oneself from the own personal victim story. Everyone deserves to experience love and intimacy. And … Read more
Introducing the magic recipe for being “People Pleaser”: Stay quiet. Be irrelevant. Don’t try anything new. Don’t be too good at something. But don’t be too bad either. Be mediocre. Fake-Smile. Ask: “How are you?” Compliment others -even if you don’t care. Try to be superficial. Be “nice”. Don’t share … Read more
Here’s the scenario of an awkward party conversation: Someone you know walks up to you at a party. “Heyyy” you say with a fake smile. “Heeeyyy” says the other… A moment of awkward silence. “What’s up with you?” You don’t really care, but it’s a good question to keep the … Read more
For the first time in history we have a reliable distraction when we feel discomfort. In fact, no one has to feel discomfort anymore. Our sanctuary is always right here, in our pocket. There’s no need to talk to someone else, just out of boredom. No need for eye contacts, … Read more